Certified Gottman Couples Therapy & Individual Counseling in Hoboken, New Jersey

Kristen Hullinger MSW, LCSW, and a Certified Gottman Therapist, works with you to establish a sense of well-being when things aren't feeling clear. Counseling sessions will pay attention to the challenges interfering with your wellness no matter the Life Transitions you are currently navigating. 

The practice serves couples and individuals in-person and through HIPAA compliant Telehealth services in New Jersey.

Research-Backed Couples Therapy (The Gottman Method)

Restore a sense of optimism and intimacy in your relationship.

“Everything feels hard. We never have sex and I feel alone even though we are together all the time. Where is the line of no return?”

Couples therapy is directed by Gottman principles, which is an evidenced based approach backed by 40+ years of research. Find your friendship with your partner and catch them doing something right. Begin to feel closer and more connected, while learning how to let the past be the past and reignite romance now and in the future.

Whether you are working independently or together as a couple, we will identify steps giving you and your partner direction to move from isolation, loneliness, or conflict toward a more satisfying relationship.

What Clients Say:

Working with Kristen has been transformative for our relationship. After doing some research, we knew we wanted to work with someone certified in the Gottman Method, and there are surprisingly few therapists in the NYC area with that certification. We were fortunate to be referred to Kristen by close friends who also had an excellent experience with her.

Within a matter of months, we were equipped with the tools and language to work through gridlocked conflicts in our relationship. By building a stronger foundation of trust and communication, we were able to take meaningful steps forward, developing shared meaning around marriage, family, finances, and the kind of future we want to build together. We’ve learned so much about ourselves and each other through our sessions.

Kristen’s approach is grounded in research-backed Gottman principles, which translates into empathetic yet direct coaching and thoughtful redirection throughout our sessions. We now have a level of confidence we didn’t have before working with her, and feel equipped to navigate whatever challenges come our way.

-EM

This process has been relationship-altering for so many reasons. My husband and I had done years of couples therapy previously, but it always felt like we were learning how to resolve our fights, rather than prevent them. Through this process we have learned tools for communication that allow us to both feel heard, but also respect the other and their truth. I have never felt more comfortable and secure in my relationship than since we started with Kristen Hullinger, LCSW and the Gottman method. We have learned so much about ourselves, who we are together and how to exist with our differences. I have found so much comfort in the process and have been able to let go of my ego in order to be the best partner I can be for my husband. This therapy has allowed us space to have deep meaningful conversations, even outside of sessions, to explore our feelings and really understand why we are acting and responding the way we are. I'm so grateful that we have had this opportunity to grow and learn. It is truly the best thing we did for our marriage.

– CS

Compassionate Individual Counseling & Psychotherapy

Be your own best friend.

“I feel like I never say the right thing and can’t let it go. It makes me feel anxious all the time.”

I approach individual counseling through a strengths based perspective and primarily use a systems approach along with Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) and Mindfulness tools. The system is you...the people and influences you bring from the past and who you have with you now.  Mindfulness tools focus on a way of being in the world and nurturing a sense of being all right with who you are in these very confusing times. The process is collaborative and compassionate.  Throughout the process I will provide concrete tools and help you set goals to review and provide direction over time.

The Process of Psychotherapy

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Reaching out to a Psychotherapist can be difficult but is a very hopeful step in the process of change.  There is great value in participating in talk therapy and many scientific studies to back it up. 

Whether in couples or individual psychotherapy sessions,  we will address symptoms of anxiety, depression, and substance use that may be getting in your way of relationship success, personal ease and professional goals. It will take work. But I will be with you and we will come up with a plan.

Some examples of life experiences that often bring people to my office are:

• Couples counseling, Parenting, Marital counseling

• Discontent and malaise in a relationship

• Substance use and affairs

• Dissatisfaction with work and career stress

• Anxiety, ‘racing belly’ and a brain that won’t ‘turn off’

• Feelings of sadness

• Communicating with others through difficult times or complicated situations

• Siblings of addicts, the mentally ill, or from families with complex structures

• Chronic pain and chronic illness...whether you are in pain or living with someone living with pain

The Fine Print

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Couples and Individuals

We work with adults (18yrs and older)

We do not accept insurance. Hullinger Therapy Group expects payment at the time of your appointment with cash, check, Venmo or major credit cards.